A Drop of Happy

Missing Out? How to Overcome Missed Opportunities and Beat FoMO for Good

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Journal Prompt: What’s the one thing you do that always brings you some level of joy
Teaser: coming up, entertainment shenanigans cocoa, Tyler Perry lawsuit, Hot new couple, tiktok ban, main impacts of missed opportunities
Entertainment News
R. Kelly hospitalized
Congratulations, Colman Doming,o for Native Son Award
Beyoncé Carter’s Cowboy tour is killing the chitlin circuit
Teyana Taylor and Aaron Pierre make a beautiful couple
Mariah Carey's new song
BET Awards with Kevin Hart hosted: Glorilla, Snoop
The American Music Awards, with host J-Lo
Tyler Perry lawsuit, Straw
Brit Eady 20 million Bravo lawsuit
Shannon Sharpe lawsuit
Chris Brown May arrest in the UK
Justine Baldoni $400 million counter lawsuit dismissed
Diddy Trial follow Mona
TikTok ban but not ban again
Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try –Jack Canfield
Let’s talk about The 5 Types of Overthinkers
Let’s talke about FoMO. Cleveland Clinic Article: FOMO Is Real: How the Fear of Missing Out Affects Your Health
So missed opportunities can increase and impact the feelings associated with FoMO. I also think it affects our morale as well. As discussed in the Cleveland Clinic article as to why it happens, the link to low self-esteem and then depression makes sense. 
The cause and cure is you. –Xscape. 
I cannot stress enough the impact of trying vs not trying at all. It is like the act of living. We have to shift our mindset and find success in the doing because sometimes the ultimate outcome may not be all that we thought and then we will look for the next journey. 
However, if we do nothing, we will have nothing or be in the same spot

The Power of a Proactive Mindset: Small Steps, Big Transformation

The Power of a Proactive Mindset
You don’t have to chase what’s meant for you. What’s meant for you, will find you. -Alex Elle
What is meant for you will find you, but you must be ready to receive it. I often imagine that some people may hear that quote and believe that if they think it or dream it, it will come. That is a wonderful sentiment but lacks a basis in reality. Because you have to lay the groundwork to not only receive it but, most importantly, first, recognize it. Sometimes that thing can be staring you down, but because you are not in a space to notice, the moment passes you by.
Recognize and receive.
Are you ready for it? What’s meant for you can be life-changing but only if you are ready to go in that direction. So it is not enough to dream about it, although that is a start, but we have to do the work. Of course, we don’t have to chase that thing down because if you are doing the work, I genuinely believe things will start to fall into place. You will notice, and the momentum will continue to guide you in the right direction. It’s a balance of being prepared to recognize and receive.
Taking this a step further, we are not chasing down anything that is not for us, but we can be proactive in preparing for our success. Being proactive shows that we believe in ourselves, our efforts and have faith in our future.
Article highlight from Psi Chi: Proactivity: The key to personal and professional success
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Poractivity is impactful.
Proactivity is a skill you can develop by engaging in:
Self-efficacy
Growth mindset
Future focus
Five Strategies to be more proactive:
Set SMART Goals
Approach goals with a growth mindset to anticipate obstacles and remain resilient
Believe in yourself and strengthen your self-efficacy
Seek opportunities
Envision your future success

She The People Disappoints: A Missed Opportunity in Comedy and Commentary

Stress management tip inspired by Anotinette: Know when to lean on your support system
Know that I took one for the team and watched this so you don’t have to. Listen to the podcast to get the real deal. I am giving you all the spoilers as well because you should not have to watch this to know what happens. Sorry, not sorry.
She the People, a Tyler Perry Production, stars Terri J Vaughn as Antoinette Dunkerson, Jade Novah as Shamika, Jo Marie Payton as Cleo Dunkerson, Regi Davis as Butler Donald, Karon Riley as Michael, and Terrence “TC” Carson as Danny, to name a few. It follows Antoinette Dunkerson as she becomes the Lieutenant Governor of Mississippi.
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Pride and Prejudice
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Antoinette is losing the race for Lieutenant Governor until she is caught on video, protecting her daughter. Well, she punched her underage daughter’s older boyfriend, who took her to an adult party. After the video went viral, she surprisingly won the election.

Stressed Out? Activate Your Core Values for Relief and Resilience

The first step is getting to know yourself. Start the process by reflecting on what your values are and how they tie into your life.

Sinners: The One Thing That Stopped Me From Giving It a Perfect 10

Sinners: The One Thing That Stopped Me from Giving It a Perfect 10
Stress Management Tip inspired by Sammie: Follow your heart
You must become unshakable in the belief that you are worthy of a big life –Kristin Lohr
Sinners, directed by Ryan Coogler, was released on April 18, 2025, to high critical praise and a strong box office showing for an R-rated horror movie. It is poised to become a classic.

When Doing It All Goes Wrong: 5 Life Balance Tips to Get Back on Track

The quote “Life is a balance between holding out and letting go” is one of my favorite quotes by Rumi because it is so on point. When I think about how things got so out of wack so quickly and put it against this quote, I see that’s exactly what I’ve been doing wrong. Fighting for my life, holding on to the way that I thought was right. We sometimes do that thinking we are on the right track and it falls flat because we end up hurting ourselves.
Here are five simple tips that I hope will help with the balancing act of life because we really all need a little grace and grounding sometimes.
Start your day off with Intention- Reflect on your day and what you want out of it. Set a positive tone. Breathe and relax.
Focus on one thing at a time- multitasking is not real. Give the one thing your full attention. Presence = Peace
Protect your “no”- No is a full sentence. You don’t have to do everything for everybody. Boundaries are important.
Schedule your joy like it’s an appointment. Whether it’s a walk, a dance break, or watching a show, block out time for things that make you feel good. Don’t treat yourself as a side project.
Rest before you are exhausted. Do not wait until you are about to drop because then it is too late.

Captain America: Brave New World – A Hero’s Journey Against All Odds

Captain America: Brave New World – A Hero’s Journey Against All Odds
Journal Prompt: What are three things I can do this week to take care of myself?
Captain America: Brave New World starting with Anthony Mackie and Harrison Ford was released in theaters on February 14th. Now, I admit that I did not have high hopes for this movie based on a couple of things. Ever since Avengers: Endgame Marvel hasn’t been hitting it like it used to and the trailers I’ve watched for Brave New World did not get me excited enough about this new Marvel movie. Nevertheless, I was determined to see for myself because the racist trolls were trying to take it down before it even got the chance all because they did not like a black Captain America. They did not even care that the storyline followed the comics and even had one host talking about how Steve gave the shield to some random black guy. Random (in my Soldier Boy voice)! We will not have it oh. So my son and I decided to check it out on opening night.
Captain America: Brave New World finds Sam, the new Captain America, working closely with the President of the United States on a mission that ends up going sideways. Eventually, they find themselves on opposite teams again while Sam tries to get to the bottom of an evil plan to spark off a potential World War Three situation. Starring Anthony Mackie as Sam Wilson aka Captain America, Harrison Ford as Thaddeus Ross, Danny Ramirez as Joaquin Torres, Giancarlo Esposito as Sidewinder, and Carl Lumbly as Isaiah Bradley to name a few, Captain America: Brave New World does not disappoint.
I was pleasantly surprised and entertained to the point that I will be watching it again. The pacing was well done and I appreciated it more the second time around. It started a tad slow but that was necessary to build the background and get us acclimated with the new Captain America and where he fits in the landscape of things. The acting and special effects were on point, but I particularly enjoyed the cinematography, especially with the air shots. The character development in this film was well done as they had layers of complexity and realism considering having to deal with the aftermaths of End Game. They did a great job showcasing the new Captain America’s strengths and skill set. I also enjoyed how they brought past movies to the current plot and tied up loose ends while potentially introducing the next Avenger phase.
Overall, I enjoyed it and found it more substantive which I discuss further when I get into the spoiler sections. Let me just say my favorite character is Isaiah followed by Thaddeus and that’s because both actors, Carl Lumbly and Harrison Ford, did the darn thing. There were a couple of things that left me with a question mark which is why it will not end up with a 10.
Captain America: Brave New World 9/10
Spoilers ahead
So it starts with Sam as the new Captain America and the wannabe Falcon, Joaquin Torres assigned to a secret mission to retrieve a valuable item that was en route to Japan. We later find out the item was an adamantium sample that is at the center of a treaty Thaddeus is working on with three other countries. He is looking for collaboration on further mining and production of said mineral found in Celestial Island after the events of The Eternals movie. After which, we learn that the president invites Sam and Joaquin to the White House where Isaiah Bradley, a super soldier who was wrongfully imprisoned and tested on for 30 years, along with a few other personnel shoots up the white house event. It looks like, Isaiah was trying to kill the president but then runs off. Sam catches up with him and urges him to turn himself in.
Sam then tries to talk to the president into letting him investigate but Thaddeus digs at him not being Steve Rogers or essentially not being the real Captain America. Sam gets upset and decides to investigate himself. He eventually finds out that Samual Stern is the master manipulator behind everything that has been happening with his ultimate goal for Theddues to turn into Red Hulk. Thaddeus, pushed to the edge by Stern's antics, eventually does turn into the Red Hulk, and Sam swoops in to save the day. In the process, they have an impressive air fighting scene involving Sam, Joaqui,n and a couple of other fight jets. Unfortunately, Joaquin gets badly hurt during this process and requires life-saving surgery which he gets and survives. We also have a Bucky sighting amid all the craziness.
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Sam Wilson played by Anthony Mackie
Thaddeus Ross played by Harrison Ford
Isaiah Bradley played by Carl Lumbly
Secret Agent Leila Taylor played by Xosha Roquemore
Sidewinder played by Giancarlo Esposito
Ruth Bat-Seraph played by Shira Haas
Samuel Stern played by Tim Blake Nelson
Commander Dennis Dunphy played by William Mark McCullough

Harlem: The Final Season — A Touching and Unforgettable Farewell on Prime

Harlem The Final Season: It comes to an end on Prime
Journal Prompt: How does my body feel today, and what does it need from me?
I just finished the last season of Harlem and I am sad. I am sad because it was so good and now it has come to an end. Harlem was giving Sex and the City Harlem edition. I have said it before. Quinn played by Grace Byers is Charlotte. Camille played by Meagan Good is Carrie. Angie played by Shoniqua Shandai is Samantha. Last, Tye played by Jerrie Johnson is Miranda by default. Ian played by Tyler Lepley is Aidan if Carrie didn’t keep leaving his ass for Big. I mean, I am definitely simplifying it but you get the drift.
So there are three seasons to Harlem that follow the four ladies through the ups and downs of trying to live their best professional lives and find love as they do it. I found this series to be fun and entertaining while touching on some real-life concerns that professional black women have as they navigate the dating scene. I enjoyed the peek behind the veil into their family dynamics. This gave an insight into who they are and why they made some of the decisions that they did.
Quinn is the seemingly sweet, innocent, and idealistic one. She is flowers and roses and everything nice. Her family has money and she does pretty well for herself as a boutique owner and designer. It took her a while to find her way but she finally did focusing on her craft.
Camille is hot-headed and impulsive and like a little hurricane. But she is loyal and cares deeply about her friends. She eventually does find the love that she deserves. Angie too is searching for herself and also finding good sex wherever she can get it. She is definitely the free spirit of the crew. I love that she often throws caution to the wind but struggles with her true calling at the same time.
Tye appears to be the confident and secure one in all ways, and that’s where her complexity comes in because in reality, she is not secure at all. Tye pretends to have it all together, financially and emotionally. She is an open lesbian who loves playing the field. Ultimately that confident facade is nothing but a smoke screen to hide the fact that she is scared of facing rejection and the consequences of real-life choices. When things get emotional she runs.
We follow these four through 3 seasons of ups and downs and family drama and finding themselves. Season three is by far my favorite season because it gave me a happy ending that was also fun and captivating.
Lesson Learned: Know your worth
Harlem Series 10/10
Season three spoilers
Camille was a little crazy and neurotic but I would like to blame that on her pregnancy and hormones. To catch you up to speed at the end of season 2 after she broke up Ian’s wedding and got back together with him, they spent some time in the honeymoon phase until Camille found out her chances of having a baby were slim. Then she decided she did not even want a baby. I had a problem with how she handled that whole thing because she never confided in Ian about her fertility issues which led to her deciding that she did not even want a child. This left Ian out in the cold because he wanted children and a family with Camille so badly. They end up breaking up over it. Fast forward to season three they decide they can be exes with benefits and spend some time sleeping together. It turns out that Ian is seeing other people and ends up getting together with his childhood friend.
This throws Camille into a state. She is acting a little crazy to me but then she finds out that she is pregnant. She tells Ian, he is somewhat happy but does not seem overjoyed. At first, she does not want to keep the baby because she is afraid she will be a terrible mother like her narcissistic mother. She gets comforting advice from Ian’s aunt and decides to keep the baby. Ian tells her that he will help her but he is staying with Portia because he cares for her. Meanwhile, they bonded over her wanting to have children. She came to town to freeze her eggs and they ended up starting that process together. As time goes on, Ian is helping Camille with her pregnancy, Portia realizes that he still has feelings for Camille which he does not deny when confronted. She leaves and he gets back together with Camille.
Ian really shouldn’t have started the relationship with Portia. It was clearly a rebound situation in which he was filling in all the gaps he had with Camille with what Portia could do for him which was ultimately give him a child and a family. The only problem is that he still really wanted those things with Camille. Ultimately, I am glad Portia had the sense of self-worth not to put up with that and she left.
Quinn too had a bout of getting her sense of self and self-worth tested because she got with a gorgeous baseball player who she fell in love with and promised to give her everything she wanted. He stated he had strong feelings for her too and saw her as his main chick. Turns out that he is polyamorous and had a partner who was down to share him. Quinn went to meet with them and was overwhelmed by the girlfriend asking her 201 questions and talking about her STD testing regimen. It was a complete turn-off for Quinn and she was done. Again, knowing your boundaries and your self-worth is extremely important and allows her to make the right choice. She ends up deciding that she will freeze her eggs and have a baby alone. At the appointment, she meets her ex from season 2 and looks to be the start of something good.
Tye and Angie are the most interesting for me this season. Listen to the podcast for the rest of the breakdown.